What is Real Self-Love?

Interview with Tara Love Perry, Author, Transformational Speaker, Spiritual Empowerment and Self Love Teacher from the UK, by Ruby Brown.

HI TARA! IT’S GREAT TO SEE YOU. YOU RECENTLY PUBLISHED A BOOK CALLED “I LOVE YOU, ME” AND IT’S SINCE BECOME A METHOD THAT YOU’RE TEACHING TO LIVE AUDIENCES, AS WELL AS THROUGH YOUR ONLINE VIDEOS AND COURSES. CAN YOU TELL US A BIT MORE ABOUT WHAT “I LOVE YOU, ME,” IS?

“Hi beautiful. Thanks for asking. “I Love You, Me,” is a process, a 7 step method actually, and a very simple way of creating a relationship with yourself that is very tangible and literally life changing! There’s a quote that’s become popular over the past few years about how it’s important to love yourself if you want to truly love another, and this “I Love You, Me” process teaches you all that, and all about unconditional love, and then takes it to a whole another level completely. Self Love, and this method, is I believe, the foundation for life. It’s about re-building our basic understanding of who were are as human beings, in physical bodies, with a spiritual essence, and a heart that is capable of feeling everything, including the infinite source of where we come from.

How can we learn to love if we don’t yet know who we are? That has to be the number 1 priority, to connect with ourselves, discover, go deep, be real, be honest, and be open. Then when we begin to realise who we are, we can clearly see where we have got stuck in old patterns and beliefs that keep us separate and divorced from our true selves, and finally mend the bridges. That’s what love is all about – being whole. Love doesn’t separate the ‘good’ in us from the ‘bad.’ It simply IS; love simply loves everything!

Can we learn to do that, to love everything? Could we include ourselves, and what would happen if we did? That’s what this book and method is all about, and at the same time, “I Love You, Me” is super simple – almost too simple!

WOW. THAT’S QUITE A LOT TO UNDERSTAND! IT SOUNDS EXISTENTIAL AND AT THE SAME TIME, REALLY BASIC BECAUSE WE ALL NEED LOVE DON’T WE? WHAT WOULD WE DO WITHOUT IT?

Exactly! Without love, who would we be? It’s what we are constantly looking for, everywhere, in every single thing we do. Think about it, and look at your own thoughts and actions, and you’ll realise that it’s all done to get more love! It’s our most fundamental motivation in life. Love is everything, but the problem is people get caught in what love really means. Few people really get it – that Love by it’s nature is unconditional, which means there is no such thing as love with conditions, like, “I’ll love you if..” or “I’ll love you when…”. That isn’t love at all, that’s a made-up version of something that’s based on beliefs, mental programming, analysing, ideals, fantasy, and a whole heap of things that we deem bad or wrong about other people and most especially ourselves so as not to ‘deserve’ love. Everyone deserves love. Real Love is actually who we are. And “I Love You, Me” is about finding our way back to that, and making it a very practical and usable everyday experience. The steps are easy enough for anyone to do, and it basically involves using our sensory awareness, being conscious and having a conversation.

ISN’T THAT WHAT WE’RE ALL LOOKING FOR – SORT OF LIKE COMING HOME?

Yes, it is. It’s the foundation of life. When you build your life on this understanding, and not just in theory but really live it and experience it, making it a normal part of your day life, everything else changes. Suddenly you have stability where previously you didn’t. Suddenly you have security, anxiety goes down, you feel safe, you can open up more to others and to opportunities in front of you. With “I Love You, Me” you can forgive and let go of everything in your past that’s holding you back, you can release baggage and undo old programming from your parents or your culture. With self love, you feel genuinely confident, happy and connected. Self love is the secret sauce to success for every area of your life!

“Self Love Saves Your Soul People put off helping themselves until it’s too late and they’re in a serious mess. This not only wastes valuable time that you’ll never get back, but also puts immense stress and pain onto loved ones around you. We might not want to put ourselves first, and we might not know how? But, until we learn to attend to our unmet needs for recognition, attention, validation, love and appreciation, we will be chasing love from all the wrong places and stay stuck in unhealthy patterns and self destructive habits.”

THAT’S AMAZING!! I CAN IMAGINE THAT’S VERY HEALING TOO, AND COULD HELP WITH THINGS LIKE DEPRESSION AS WELL, YES?

Absolutely, “I Love You, Me” can help with anything, its potential is unlimited because it’s Unconditional Love. Love is the most powerful force there is. It’s the only force in existence really, except we tend to forget that on a daily basis, a lot! It’s about remembering and coming home, like you said. Then there’s nothing wrong anymore…

SO, WHAT HAPPENS IN THE LIVE EVENTS TARA , AND HOW CAN PEOPLE FIND OUT ABOUT IT?

The events are awesome, I have to say. Myself and my team love doing them because it lifts everyone up and puts them in that high love vibration! It’s immensely healing, and very revealing. I call the events ‘SELF LOVE IMMERSION,’ and it’s where I guide people through the 7 steps process so they have a very real experience of it. At the end they’ve learned the “I Love You, Me” method at the beginner level so they can use it at home and with their family, plus they’ve had some very profound shifts, big realisations, and deep healing.

WHAT ABOUT AFTER THE BASIC LEVEL? ARE THERE MORE ADVANCED LEVELS?

Yes, of course! But it depends to what level a person really wants to love themselves? And then, if they choose to do that really well, then they can begin to coach and facilitate others to do the same. To love is to master oneself and to master life. There’s nothing more important than that, and it’s what the whole world needs right now, so we can have some kind of chance of coming home to the truth and living in harmony and not destroying the place and each other.

OOOH, THAT MAKES MY HEART FEEL FULL AND HAPPY. I WISH WE COULD DO THAT! HOW DOES SOMEONE BECOME A COACH OR FACILITATOR THEN?

It’s easy, I teach them. But to find out about it, you have to start with the beginner level by either reading the book or coming to an event, or both! And then if the person is ready, I take them onto my course and train them to transform their own lives and then help transform the lives of others with self love. It works alongside other coaching or healing techniques, and very well as a stand alone business, either doing 1:1 or in groups, large or small.

It works so beautifully that it still blows my mind how profound and incredible it is! I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. Love is like that though isn’t it, so profound and amazing we can’t get our heads around it. It just fills our heart and soul and makes anything suddenly possible! We are literally creating what people call miracles with this method!

OK, SO WHEN’S THE NEXT “SELF LOVE IMMERSION’ EVENT AND WHERE CAN PEOPLE GET THE BOOK?

Ha! I’m glad you asked that! The next one is in London on 2 March, and then in Dubai on 15-16 March. Discount on tickets until the end of February, so it’s a good time to book now. And the book is currently available for FREE in digital format for a limited period of time, and then you can also buy the hardcopy too, and you can get the “I Love You, Me” 7 Steps to Transformational Self Love on a video e-course. There’s something for everyone.

THANKS TARA, IT’S LOVELY TALKING TO YOU. I GET A REALLY GOOD FEELING IN MY HEART AND I CAN’T WAIT TO READ YOUR BOOK NOW AND COME TO THE SELF LOVE IMMERSION!

“Thanks Ruby, brilliant talking to you too! If you knew what would happen to you the moment you immerse yourself in all that love inside of you, you wouldn’t hesitate! See you on the inside!”

Tara Love Perry is a Master Soul Reader, sometimes known as ‘The Spiritual Midwife’. She is a naturally gifted intuitive energy worker with a high level spectrum of extra-sensory abilities that allow her to see, hear, feel, communicate & empathise with ranges of energy from your cells and DNA to your Soul and Eternal Spirit. With over 15 years professional experience as a Soul Reader, Channel & Energy Healer, her talks, trainings, 1:1 sessions and workshops have currently taken her to 11 countries over 4 continents, with many thousands of souls, including spiritual leaders, political leaders, corporate leaders, coaches, authors, CEO’s and artists having benefited from her unique methods and delivery. She’s the UK’s leading Self-Love Expert and is leading the way for a global shift in spirituality.