January, the month known for giving up all the things – dry January, Veganuary, and of course, a fresh new start. New year, new you, new love? The good news is that you don’t need anyone else right away, because It all starts with you!. Christiana Maxion, The Dubai Matchmaker shares her guide to attracting your ideal partner in the new year.
The Dating Detox
If you are in an endless cycle of dating disappointment or fresh out of a relationship, Christiana suggests a ‘dating detox’ – your situation will determine the length of your detox.
- In a cycle of bad first dates?: thirty day dating detox
- Breakup after a relationship less than a year?: sixty day dating detox
- Breakup after a relationship longer than a year/a divorce?: ninety day dating detox
What exactly is a dating detox?
- Date yourself first. Create your happy list of at least ten things that make you innately happy, e.g. bubble baths, a good book or podcast, favorite sport or socializing. Make this list visible, whether it’s posted on the back of your front door or on the screen of your phone, and promise to do at least one or two of these things every day
- Purge your home and life of the things that make you unhappy or remind you of your ex. It will be painful to let go of friends or their favorite shirt, but you’re making room for new happy things to enter your life
- Happy + active = attractive. Exercise is a great way to increase your self esteem and your mood
- Learn something new! Either read or listen to a new book, pick up a new hobby, or invest in being an expert in something you already enjoy
- USP list: Create your own unique selling points list and write down all of your accomplishments, successes, star qualities, and what you bring to a relationship. This will help you start dating from a pedestal. Dating from a pedestal allows you to see both the green and red flags in any potential new partner
- Build your ideal partner: Use Christiana’s partner Patti Stanger’s five worlds – spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, and financial. Which traits, attributes, and values do you want in a partner in each of these worlds? Narrow these down to your top ten must-haves and top five non-negotiables. Keep this non-negotiables list in your phone, wallet, or posted somewhere in your home. You can even transform it into a vision board with photos and use it as your phone’s backdrop or desktop screen.
Don’t be shocked if you start getting a lot more attention during this process!, but remember to stick to your detox timeline. You are becoming not only more attractive to yourself but to others. In preparation for the end of your detox, create your dating wishlist of the great places you want to go, things you want to try or new hot spots that intrigue you, so you’re ready for when you do get asked out.
Christiana Maxion, The Dubai Matchmaker, is rewriting the blueprint of the Dubai dating-verse, one match at a time. For more information and to sign up to find your perfect match visit www.christianamaxion.com and keep up-to-date with Christiana’s dating tips and entertaining anecdotes on social media @christiana.maxion.matchmaker.